I've always loved Valentine's Day! And ironically, I can only recall a few of them where I was actually in any kind of relationship. Regardless, I love the idea of celebrating love...not just romantic, but love in general. I love the hearts and the cupids and the cards and the flowers and seeing how happy and giddy everyone else gets over it.
Well...maybe not everyone. Valentine's Day seems to bring out the bitter, the grumps, and the people who just want to whine for the sake of whining. Examples of real comments/facebook posts I've come across today (keeping in mind that it's only 1 pm):
- "Happy Stupid Holiday...I mean Valentine's Day."
- "I'm going to go to work every day so I can pay the bills this month; that's my Valentine's Day present to my wife."
- "Valentine's Day is rediculous."
- "It's just a Hallmark day to make money." (
Nerd side note: It goes waaaay back before Hallmark Days...it's actually been celebrated around the world for centuries, and Chaucer--who wrote Beowulf and is one of the most famous poets in all of English literature--is the one who made it a romantic thing.)
- "Being single in Utah sucks. Being single in Utah on Valentine's Day sucks even more."
So why does it tend to bring out the bitter in so many people? I completely understand that there is nothing fun about wanting to be in a relationship or trying to get over a breakup, but it seems like the people who get so bent out of shape about it are the ones who can't imagine being happy single. It reminds me of some advice I overheard once in college. A girl was lamenting not being married yet (at 21! lol!) To which my friend Jimmy turned to her and said, "You should be happy in all stages of your life."
For some reason, this really resonated with me. From that point, I decided to be happy in ALL stages of my life. Not to say that was always easy, esp when my friends starting getting married, then started having kids, then starting to send their kids to school, then turning 30...you get it. Of course I wanted those things too, but in the meantime I made it my goal to do everything that having a husband or children would keep me from, or at least delay, and then I went out and either got them or did them -- I bought a home, a little convertible that fit just me and my dog, traveled, started grad school, took tennis lessons, etc. I also decided to make myself the kind of person that someone would WANT to be with and develop qualities that would be helpful when I had a family, like learning how to cook and manage money or being more patient. And in the process of doing all these things, I happened to meet someone special.
So, from what i've noticed, it seems to me that once people stop looking for love or stressing about being single and instead start living a full life, great things start to happen :-)